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Over the river and through the woods – to my Mom or Dad’s house I go.

Over the river and through the woods – to my Mom or Dad’s house I go?
With the holidays approaching, some kids will be spending time with a noncustodial parent. Although children are excited to see their parent, it can still be a stressful situation in unfamiliar surroundings.

Parents can help.
Whether you are the custodial parent kissing your child goodbye, or the noncustodial parent preparing to see your growing child, you can help your child have a happy visit. Follow these suggestions:

1.Begin by agreeing to work together. Your child is part of both of you. Don’t criticize the other parent – you are criticizing your child.
2.Plan ahead. Coordinate with your former spouse on logistics. Let your child know what the plans are and what to expect. Help your child be prepared, find out if they’ll need any special gear or clothing.
3.Travel checklist. Create a list of what is packed so nothing is lost in the shuffle. Be sure to include medication information and your doctor’s phone number in case something needs to refilled, or left behind.
4.Communicate. Allow your kids to stay connected to the absent parent. Establish a schedule for calls. Be sure to let the other parent know the child has arrived safely if they traveled alone.
5.Help your child ‘fit in’. Identify a drawer or specific place for your child’s belongings. Show them “their” towels. Help your child with an immediate sense of belonging.

For more ideas on stepfamily holidays, check out the Family Matters section of ParentSavvy.com.

Do you have a suggestion that has worked for your family? We would love to hear it. Leave us a comment below!

By Rich